If you read the last post, you know I spent a lot of time convinced I was just an angry person. Turns out I was just a person who had used up all her decisions by 9am. This is what I did about it.
At some point last year, I realized I had been spending a completely unreasonable amount of mental energy deciding what to wear.
Not in a fun, fashion-girlie way. In a it-is-6:47am, the-baby-is-already-unhappy, and-I-am-standing-in-front-of-my-closet-having-what-can-only-be-described-as-a-small-emotional-event kind of way.
I love getting dressed. I love color, texture, a good statement moment. But somewhere between new motherhood, a full time job, and the general chaos of keeping a household alive, "what do I wear today" started to feel less like self-expression and more like a tax I didn't sign up for.
So I simplified. And then I kept going.
Now I wear matching sets almost exclusively. Clean, put-together, zero negotiation. My workout clothes are all black, multiples of the exact same thing, because I don't need that to be interesting. My underwear and bras coordinate effortlessly for the same reason. I get the same coffee order every time. I eat the same breakfast every morning. When I sit down at the nail salon, I already know what I'm getting. My hair has a signature — a style and color I know inside and out, down to the products and the timeline.
And honestly? This has been one of the most freeing decisions I've made.
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Here's the thing about me: I love spontaneity. I love trying new things. I am genuinely someone who will see a color combination on a stranger and feel actual joy about it. That part of me hasn't gone anywhere. But I've started to think about where I actually want to spend that creative energy, and Tuesday morning getting dressed is not it anymore.
Every small choice chips away at the mental bandwidth you have for the things that actually matter to you. When I stopped burning that bandwidth on autopilot stuff, I had more of it left for the things I actually want to think about. My work. My business. My kid. The moments where spontaneity genuinely adds something.
I still do color. I still do statement pieces. But I do them intentionally now — a bag, a shoe, a moment I actually chose. Not because it was the default option left after I ran out of decisions.
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This season of my life is full. And it turns out protecting your energy doesn't always look like a grand overhaul or a wellness routine or a big dramatic change.
Sometimes it looks like knowing what you're going to wear tomorrow.
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